To love or being loved?

I was told a sad story today.

For a long time, A has a good friend of the opposite sex named B. They remain friends for the longest time ever. While both have feelings for each other for a long time, unfortunately due to bad timing, they have never able to be together. Both fell in love with someone else, got their hearts broken, then fell in love with others again. All the time, A & B though best buddies, will only keep in touch one in a while and also keep each other company when the time permit.

Then recently, they met up again. This time however, feelings were unfolded and something happened between them. Alas, it is the wrong timing again. Though B is single, A is with someone. After a few days together, again they parted. A began to endure the misery of missing B all the time but there is nothing she can do. She even thought that if B would have ask her to choose again, she would have give it all out just to be the one she feels right, but that didnt happen. She was willing to risk everything that she has now just for him, only if he have asked.

So A, after the long endurance of the misery and heartaches, began to pick herself up again. Trying to be as cheerful as possible when they both meet, just wanting things to go back to what it had used to be. But all the time, she would really want to ask B why didnt he ask for her hands, is she not worth all the challenges and the difficult path that they might need to journey together, or it is plainly because he didnt love her enough. Though occasionally she still misses him a lot, but the healing was working in a slow but painful way. Just when she managed to get a grip of herself again, taking and accepting what life brings her and trying hard to be contended with everything, B came to her, and questioned her intention and feelings. Once again, he manages to unstitch all the healing she has done for herself, and the misery comes back, only this time it was stronger.

She asks me if it is wrong to love someone when you are with someone else. I told her that there is no right or wrong when it comes to this. Just like you cant force someone to love you less or more, you cant force yourself to love someone less or more as well. I used to believe in chasing the love you want. Of course you might get hurt or fall along the way, but loving someone is the joyous thing in the world, and no money can be exchange for that. Or you could just stay at where you are and be loved by someone and be contended with life, and perhaps you might even learn to return the love too.

I hope you will be able to get an answer soon, and after that, and you can breath freely again.