You love me, you love me not..

My girl friend told me that she is in love with someone who doesnt really loves her so much. Each day the aches her heart brings upon her of missing him is driving her crazy. She asked me what can she do to make her miss him less or even better, to forget about her.

She said that he didnt call or text her, sometimes for days. Yet when once a while when he texted her with some mushy words, she would have forgiven him for missing for such a long time, and his text meant the world to her. She said there was once when he went for a business trip and the last thing he told her was he was upset because of the sudden changed in his itinerary, he could not meet up another girl. She was furious and she swore to herself that that was the last straw!

The first night that he was away, she was blinded by anger and thus the night went through easier, because she misses him less, but was more angry at him. Then the second day, her anger vanished and she begin to miss him more. She wonders how he is doing, and if there will be a slight possibility that he might text her or even leave her an email or any sort. Nothing happened. Then the third day she found out that he was online sometimes and he was flirting with someone else on Fb, she was so furious! That has again proven to her that she meant little or nothing to him. So from then on, she shut herself from him and things were progressing well, she misses him less and was beginning to pick up her life again until one night, out of her expectation, that guy texted him. She didnt replied but since that night, whatever efforts she had put in gone down the drain. She misses him again, this time even more. But as again, the guy just vanishes into thin air.

I remember a friend once told me that love is poisonous. Once you are in it, you cant help yourself but to do stupid and irrational things. Though love is poisonous, yet we cant help ourselves from falling in love. Love is a funny thing aint it? Sometimes, someone loves you more or vice versa. Sometimes it is always the wrong timing when the passion from one party is more than the other, and thus they might be arguing over who loves who more, or feeling unappreciated when one is high in passion and love and the other is not. i guess you cant just force yourself to love someone more or someone to love you more. Love is never a fair game.

I think only time will be able to help her now. I am hoping that one day, she would just suddenly wake up in the morning and realises that he is not worth it and dump him entirely from her life. Until then, i am sure she will continue with her debate of missing him and being angry at him.